Exploiting the Ego: Mastering the Art of Narcissistic Manipulation

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1. Understanding the goal: the narcissist as a victim type

A narcissist is a particularly suitable target for manipulation due to their distinct psychological characteristics. Narcissists are:

• • Pompous show-offs who constantly seek attention.
• • Have an excessive ego and a lack of empathy.
• • Characterized by compulsive self-obsession, fantasy addiction, unusual coldness, and an inflated self-image.
• • Tend to exploit and abuse others and take them for granted.
• • Live off the attention of others while despising them at the same time.
• • Warning signs include unusual arrogance, boundless self-overestimation, and exaggeration of one's own successes, popularity, and achievements.
• • They need excessive admiration and strive for power in order to dominate others. They manipulate through threats, anger, and lies.
• • Narcissists have a constant need for validation and attention. No matter how much you give them, it is never enough. They feel insecure and anxious and do not believe that anyone can truly love them.
• • They have a strong need for control and become disappointed and sad when reality does not match their mental expectations.
• • They have no guilt and always see themselves as being in the right. They hide their inadequacies, fears, rejections, and failures from others as well as from themselves.
• • Narcissists tend to transfer their fears and depression onto others, as they feel better when those close to them are doing badly.
• • They divide everything into “good” and ‘bad’ (“splitters”), take credit for the positive and blame others for the negative.
• • They see themselves as perfect, extremely competent and want to be at the top of the hierarchy. They reward themselves with the right to hurt and manipulate others.

2. Preparation and building trust (reconnaissance & infiltration)

To successfully manipulate a narcissist, you must first establish an unconscious connection and lower their guard.

• • Address the subconscious: The real goal is to access the narcissist's subconscious and anchor ideas there, as this is where they stick most firmly. Conscious thinking filters out information that does not fit with one's beliefs, but the subconscious is unfiltered.
• • Observation: Study the narcissist to understand their behavior, including eye movements, breathing patterns, facial discoloration, and nervous tics. This helps to identify their emotional state and basic behavior patterns and to understand how they take in and process information.
• • Mirroring: Subtly imitate the narcissist's body language, speech patterns, and mannerisms. This creates a sense of familiarity and understanding, as the narcissist identifies with you (“someone like me”).
• • Charisma and flattery: Use charisma to attract attention and build trust.
• • Storytelling: Share small, personal anecdotes that make you seem approachable and friendly and create common ground. Pay attention to how the narcissist highlights their achievements in their own stories.

3. Targeted influence (exploitation)

Once trust has been established, specific techniques can be used to exploit the narcissist's weaknesses:

• • Love flooding: Shower the narcissist with praise, compliments, and excessive admiration. This satisfies their constant need for validation and attention and feeds their inflated self-image.
• • Selective inattention: Ignore the narcissist at times. When a person is ignored, they often try harder to get attention, which puts you in a position of power. This is particularly effective because narcissists constantly seek attention and do not want to be ignored.
• • The “white knight” / problem-reaction-solution: Deliberately create or exacerbate a problem and then present yourself as the sole savior or solution. This plays into the narcissist's need for control and their desire to be perceived as superior and a problem solver.
• • Fear mongering: Trigger fear to activate the narcissist's primitive survival instincts. Since narcissists themselves suffer from hidden fears and insecurities, this can cause them to follow instructions to avoid a dreaded outcome.
• • Appeal to greed or frugality: Specifically appeal to the narcissist's greed (“Think of all the money you could make”) or frugality (“Think of all the money you could save”), depending on what their “sweet spots” are. This targets their selfish interests.
• • Bait and switch: Pretend to be someone you are not in order to get something from the narcissist, e.g., feign romantic interest to extract information. This can exploit their emotional needs for admiration and validation.
• • Scarcity and demand: Create the impression that an offer is only available for a limited time or in limited quantities (“scarcity”), or that ‘everyone’ wants it (“demand”). This plays into the narcissist's desire to have the best and be exclusive, or to be part of a superior group.
• • Triangulation (from “dark seduction”): Create “triangles” by making the narcissist believe that other people are interested in you or desire you. This can reinforce their desire to be desired and be the center of attention, causing them to work harder to win your attention.
• • Fuel fear and dissatisfaction: Create dissatisfaction in the narcissist's current circumstances to make them see you as the only solution to their problems. This can exploit their inherent fears and need for control.
• • Priming: Introduce certain stimuli that subconsciously prepare the narcissist for a desired way of thinking. The brain is tricked into considering certain information as more important. For example, by subtly sprinkling in keywords that are related to the goals of the attack.
• • Suggestive frequency and “voice roll”: Speak at a rate of about 60 words per minute to put the narcissist into a suggestible state. Use the “voice roll” technique to emphasize important words in a monotone voice so that they penetrate the subconscious without triggering alarm.
• • Anchoring: Link a specific stimulus (e.g., a touch) to a particular emotional state of the narcissist. This anchor can be triggered later to bring the narcissist back to that state. Be sure to choose a unique anchor that you can control.
• • Elicitation: Use subtle prompts or suggestions to get the narcissist to reveal certain things about themselves without realizing it.

4. Maintain isolation and control

To reinforce the effect of manipulation, you can try to isolate the narcissist from external influences:

• Isolate the victim: Separate the narcissist from family, friends, and colleagues. This makes them more susceptible to influence and prevents critical opinions from outside, making them dependent solely on your “approval.”

 

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